The only poly relationship worth having is one that centers not around a man, but around Source.

Generally, when men pursue polyamorous relationships, especially those involving one man and multiple women. It’s not born from a place of spiritual alignment or mutual growth. Often, it reflects instability: mental, financial, emotional. These men are typically unmotivated, lacking vision, structure, and direction in their relational life or all areas of their life. Their main contributions to the relationship tend to be sex and companionship, for a select few, money. That’s it. He’ll lay-up with you all day, if you let him. Every day.

This is solely my opinion and my perspective as a citizen of the United States for the people of the United States. Cultures in other countries have different standards of living and generally aren’t subject to the same bouts of oppression as natives of the US.

To be clear, I’m speaking particularly about certain men within groups like the Hebrew Israelites, often referred to as “One West”, whose version of polygyny is deeply imbalanced. It’s not built on mutual empowerment. It’s not a divine union. It’s a man-centered, ego-fueled arrangement that fails to serve anyone’s higher purpose.

As a healer, my energy is sacred. Inviting multiple people into intimate spaces within my being is not something I do lightly. Looking back at my own healing journey, the people I’ve had to release, the trauma I’ve had to shed, and the peace I’ve fought for, I understand the weight of choosing a partner. Bringing just one person into that sacred space requires divine strategy.

For someone as energetically sensitive as I, sharing myself with multiple partners isn’t sustainable. It isn’t safe. And more importantly, it isn’t wise. There is no human being alive, man or woman, who can go deep enough with multiple people simultaneously to maintain meaningful, lasting soul connections. That kind of capacity belongs to Source alone.

In a poly relationship centered around one man, love becomes diluted. Attention is dispersed. Nourishment becomes inconsistent. You give to one, then turn around and give to another, pulling from a well that was being filled, perhaps even healed, by the first. Now, that energy is redirected, leaving the first to grapple with absence, confusion, and a sudden shift in emotional priority.

And what happens when you mix in unhealed trauma? Each new partner brings in their pain story. That story colors the energy exchange, taints it. The dynamic becomes a revolving door of unmet needs and misplaced intentions. The one who once felt secure may suddenly feel discarded. From there, the nervous system activates fight or flight. The relationship begins to steer toward chaos.

Again, I say: the only poly relationship worth having is one that is not centered around a man, but around Source.

My first husband is connected to Source. The spouse divinely appointed and anointed to live in the world with me reflects that Source and he shall not harm me, nor deplete me, nor distract me, nor breadcrumb me. Period.